One of the most important relationships in AA is the one between a member and their sponsor. A sponsor is an experienced AA member who guides newcomers through the Twelve Steps and provides personal support in recovery.

What Does a Sponsor Do?

A sponsor shares their experience with the Twelve Steps, is available for phone calls when you’re struggling, helps you navigate difficult situations, holds you accountable, and models what recovery looks like in daily life. The relationship is one of equals — sponsors don’t give orders, they share experience.

How to Find a Sponsor

• Attend meetings regularly and listen for people whose recovery resonates with you
• Look for someone who has what you want — not just sobriety, but serenity and purpose
• Choose someone who has worked all Twelve Steps
• Ask. It’s as simple as saying, “Would you be willing to be my sponsor?”
• Traditionally, sponsors are the same gender as the person they sponsor, though this is not a rule

The Sponsor-Sponsee Relationship

This is not therapy. Your sponsor is a fellow recovering person, not a counselor. They share what worked for them. If the relationship isn’t working, it’s perfectly acceptable to find a new sponsor.

Start by finding AA meetings in your area. Attending regularly is the best way to build relationships and find a sponsor who’s right for you. For professional treatment options, visit Red Door Recovery Network.

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